We are really into the idea of a MFM. For the first time we really want to have me the hubby sit back watch and masturbate and then if she likes we do more later with me joining another time. Is this possible are there men out there willing to do this while I watch and beat off? By Miranda- I love new and adventurous couples looking to join the lifestyle because you ask just great questions. If you decide on a married male I will make the suggestion of talking with the wife on the phone to one make sure she exists and also gives her husband permission to come alone.